This has taken quite some time to come, the second ‘philosopher's’ notes. Evaluating relationships and cherishing each one of those that I have has enabled me to put this together.
Advantages of having only a select few friends.
A friend in need is a friend indeed, is an age old adage but our understanding of the same has been lost in our inability to go beyond perceptions.
This adage has always had two qualifiers, the first is about a friend in need who are essentially what we call good friends and the second implies a select few friends. Therefore if you have too many friends, you essentially have no friend in deed.
The first advantage of having a limited number of good friends is that they are indeed friends in deed. With select few you are not spreading yourself too thin, and have a far greater bond. This short list has been basis a good degree of vetting and has been tested by time and hence is more durable and reliable. The best part of it all is that much of the trash around don’t bother you. They stay away, don’t waste your time and but for calling you names like snooty.
It’s worth it, quality friends command a premium. Your friends will feel lucky to have you as a good friend.
Why love at first sight doesn’t last?
You can be mesmerized, left speechless by someone’s beauty. But is that love. If it is something basis the first sight, will it last, for the premise, in this case - beauty, doesn’t last forever.
All such cases, methinks are mere infatuations. When you come to mother earth from the rarefied air of the infatuation, friction develops only to break it down soon thereafter. Relationships are built with the test of time and with the understanding of each other.
Look around, how many of such speed commitments have lasted the test of time.
Does your wife share a lot with your mother?
Sophocles' protagonist, a Greek mythical character Oedipus unwittingly murders his father and marries his mother and Freud with his sexually enriched psychoanalytical theory calls it the Oedipal Complex.
The Oedipal complex in simpler words is the attraction between a son and his mother or for that matter a woman in his immediate family who forms an important part of his life, possibly a sister. This attraction, outside Freud's world - which it mostly is, is not necessarily sexual. This connect is so inherent and hence natural that the man is easily attracted to women in whom he can see characteristics, habits, temperament etc of his mother/sister. Men often have a wife who reflects this attraction between a man and his mother/sister and by logical extension are sexually attracted to such women.
There is a female equivalent, known as the Electra complex
Then isn't Freud right after all?
Advantages of having only a select few friends.
A friend in need is a friend indeed, is an age old adage but our understanding of the same has been lost in our inability to go beyond perceptions.
This adage has always had two qualifiers, the first is about a friend in need who are essentially what we call good friends and the second implies a select few friends. Therefore if you have too many friends, you essentially have no friend in deed.
The first advantage of having a limited number of good friends is that they are indeed friends in deed. With select few you are not spreading yourself too thin, and have a far greater bond. This short list has been basis a good degree of vetting and has been tested by time and hence is more durable and reliable. The best part of it all is that much of the trash around don’t bother you. They stay away, don’t waste your time and but for calling you names like snooty.
It’s worth it, quality friends command a premium. Your friends will feel lucky to have you as a good friend.
Why love at first sight doesn’t last?
You can be mesmerized, left speechless by someone’s beauty. But is that love. If it is something basis the first sight, will it last, for the premise, in this case - beauty, doesn’t last forever.
All such cases, methinks are mere infatuations. When you come to mother earth from the rarefied air of the infatuation, friction develops only to break it down soon thereafter. Relationships are built with the test of time and with the understanding of each other.
Look around, how many of such speed commitments have lasted the test of time.
Does your wife share a lot with your mother?
Sophocles' protagonist, a Greek mythical character Oedipus unwittingly murders his father and marries his mother and Freud with his sexually enriched psychoanalytical theory calls it the Oedipal Complex.
The Oedipal complex in simpler words is the attraction between a son and his mother or for that matter a woman in his immediate family who forms an important part of his life, possibly a sister. This attraction, outside Freud's world - which it mostly is, is not necessarily sexual. This connect is so inherent and hence natural that the man is easily attracted to women in whom he can see characteristics, habits, temperament etc of his mother/sister. Men often have a wife who reflects this attraction between a man and his mother/sister and by logical extension are sexually attracted to such women.
There is a female equivalent, known as the Electra complex
Then isn't Freud right after all?
