This is the first of, hopefully, numerous ‘philosopher's’ notes.
My efforts at understanding people, knowing the reasons for their actions and reactions or more ambitiously inferring their value system from observing them has enabled me to put this together.
These notes in no way attempt at being sexist, while they appear to be so on many occasions. This has come about because of this being only my, a guy’s, perspective and also because my understanding of women, inspite of numerous efforts, is limited.
Good looking guys & not so good looking girls
Good looking men end up with not so pretty women. And all beautiful women land themselves not so handsome men.
Look around, and you will agree with this principle, framed empirically over a few months at the canteen of the haloed Delhi School of Economics by yours truly in collaboration with a close friend. Extreme situations and exceptions only prove the rule.
Why are second choice women first to find boyfriends or how come second rate guys are first to find girlfriends?
Guys in a hurry to land themselves a girlfriend, too soon on joining college, end up with second rate girls. In other words girls in haste to acquire a boyfriend, too soon on joining college, land themselves second rate boyfriends.
Second choice women are the first to land themselves boyfriends at a new college or second choice guys are first to acquire a girlfriend.
Guys, for earliest fulfillment of the boast of a girlfriend manage to make too many compromises to land with second choice women. These relationships are rather very sticky – the guy needs to be very mean to take corrective measures. Guys who take their time, hook the best women.
How Neil Bohr’s atomic theory and the theory of friendship are quite similar.
Simply put, Bohr says that electrons revolve around the nucleus in different energy levels. For an electron to move from one energy level to another, a great deal of energy is released/required. Closer the energy level/orbit that the electron moves in, greater is the strength of the bond between the electron and the nucleus, therefore greater energy will be required to break the bond.
Now put yourself as the nucleus and your friends as electrons revolving around you in different energy levels or degrees of closeness or strength of bond, almost like in concentric circles. For friend to move from a outer orbit to a closer or inner orbit energy or likeability is required. This likeability is achieved by greater understanding of each other and testing of the friendship over time. Breaking a bond or to snap a friendship will require an action or incident. This action or incident will be more drastic if the closeness or bond is greater – more energy is required if the electron has a closer bond.
These notes in no way attempt at being sexist, while they appear to be so on many occasions. This has come about because of this being only my, a guy’s, perspective and also because my understanding of women, inspite of numerous efforts, is limited.
Good looking guys & not so good looking girls
Good looking men end up with not so pretty women. And all beautiful women land themselves not so handsome men.
Look around, and you will agree with this principle, framed empirically over a few months at the canteen of the haloed Delhi School of Economics by yours truly in collaboration with a close friend. Extreme situations and exceptions only prove the rule.
Why are second choice women first to find boyfriends or how come second rate guys are first to find girlfriends?
Guys in a hurry to land themselves a girlfriend, too soon on joining college, end up with second rate girls. In other words girls in haste to acquire a boyfriend, too soon on joining college, land themselves second rate boyfriends.
Second choice women are the first to land themselves boyfriends at a new college or second choice guys are first to acquire a girlfriend.
Guys, for earliest fulfillment of the boast of a girlfriend manage to make too many compromises to land with second choice women. These relationships are rather very sticky – the guy needs to be very mean to take corrective measures. Guys who take their time, hook the best women.
How Neil Bohr’s atomic theory and the theory of friendship are quite similar.
Simply put, Bohr says that electrons revolve around the nucleus in different energy levels. For an electron to move from one energy level to another, a great deal of energy is released/required. Closer the energy level/orbit that the electron moves in, greater is the strength of the bond between the electron and the nucleus, therefore greater energy will be required to break the bond.
Now put yourself as the nucleus and your friends as electrons revolving around you in different energy levels or degrees of closeness or strength of bond, almost like in concentric circles. For friend to move from a outer orbit to a closer or inner orbit energy or likeability is required. This likeability is achieved by greater understanding of each other and testing of the friendship over time. Breaking a bond or to snap a friendship will require an action or incident. This action or incident will be more drastic if the closeness or bond is greater – more energy is required if the electron has a closer bond.
1 comment:
I do agree to most parts of your philosophy regarding guys & gals. In fact, during my bachelor days, there was this very popular saying in colloquial parlance which very succintly summed up the gist to this philosophy. But, I suppose, I cannot put it in writing here, as it may sound quite sexist to some!
And, by the way, I am pleasantly surprised that you still remember Mr Bohr & gang so well after all these years!!
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